Stuttering: a Comprehensive approach

You Are not Alone

Why Me?

You are a stutterer and you have the feeling that stuttering is spoiling your life. You might be thinking: “Why me? Why do I stutter and the others don’t stutter? Why do others have everything to be happy while stuttering is spoiling my life? WHY?”

Yes, for sure, it’s not fun to be a stutterer. But do you think that the others really have everything to lead a perfect and happy life? You are complaining about your stuttering but are you sure the others don’t have something to complain about as well. Something that might eventually be a lot worse that stuttering? Are you sure they don’t have some kind of invisible burden to carry wherever they go?

Watch Others as You Walk Down the Street

Next time you walk down the street, carefully watch other pedestrians. As you probably already noticed before, human beings come in different “shapes, sizes and colors”. The majority of us are not so happy about our shape, size or color. Brunettes usually dream they had blond hair and blondes wish they were brunettes. Most of us would like our nose to be a bit longer or shorter or our ears a bit smaller or larger. We wish we were shorter or taller, thinner or fatter, etc…

As you walk, look carefully at each and every person walking in the opposite direction. Try to guess why all these people might not be too happy about themselves. Try to find the small details that might be ruining the perception they have of themselves.

Now keep on walking until you come across the perfect person: beautiful, self confident etc… I bet you will probably have to walk several miles before you can find that perfect person! Then, watch this person carefully. Are you sure this person thinks of himself or herself as perfect? Maybe you didn’t notice some small detail, that very detail this person sees when watching himself or herself in a mirror. Or maybe that person’s life is ruined by some invisible disease or condition. Or maybe this person that seems so happy and confident is actually still mourning the death of a loved one. Or maybe his or her sentimental life is a total disaster. Or…

I hope you understand that the goal of this exercise is not to be nasty and to laugh at other people as you walk down the street. You should do this exercise with compassion in mind. Virtually every human being that you see walking down the street is a wonderful person (of course with the notable exception of a small minority of criminals that the police haven’t arrested yet and that might be walking on the same sidewalk as you are). Yes, despite their imperfections, they are wonderful human beings! Most of them are just like you carrying some visible or invisible burden. In your case, this burden is stuttering. In their case, this burden is something else and I am not sure you would want to swap your burden with somebody else’s burden. It might not be a good deal.

Yes, life can be very tough on planet Earth, but all these wonderful persons that are walking down the street are all doing their best. They struggle to survive. They work hard to improve the lives of their families. They all want to be that perfect dad or mum or that perfect child or that perfect spouse or lover. Do they succeed? Maybe not completely but they wish they could and they do their best. They might be going through all kinds of ordeals but they keep on struggling, doing their best.

Nobody is perfect and you are no exception. You should realize that you are an imperfect human being living in an imperfect world populated by 5 billion or so imperfect human beings. You are not alone. You are just like everybody else on this planet: you do the best you can in order to live happily with your relatives and your friends. And it’s probably not a little problem like stuttering that will prevent you from achieving your goals. Most of us are living happy lives despite our problems. You also can lead a happy life despite your stuttering.

Do your best and good luck!

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